I'm the Yippie Puppy You Love to Hate :-/

Confessions of a Fraidy Cat

What goes up must come down including adrenaline. It happened about 8 o'clock last night. I'd run all day with my mind running farther and faster until it ran out of steam. I haven't been this exhausted since my first trimester! My body gave up. My mind's throttle is still racing.

Wanna bet a lot of my 2:1 friends are feeling the same? As tired as I am, I can't imagine that some of the sponsors went right from that conference to the next without going home. I don't know how they are upright tonight. We all have to learn to pace ourselves. I'm in the remedial class, I fear.

Even as I've run myself silly, my mind has been anchored in what my goals and dreams are in light of last weekend's information bomb. The fraidy cat has begun to creep in as my adrenaline has waned. It is just as I feared it would be. In fact, I even predicted it when I spoke with my dinner companions, Tabitha, Kendra/Andy, and Stacey on Saturday night.

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My fraidy cat has come calling – the one that tells me I dream too big and reach too far. The one that says my excitement is not contagious but more like that yippie puppy you love to hate. All day long the voice has tried to drown out the energy and enthusiasm provided by new friends and new ideas.

“Pssst. Who do you think you are. You are hyper. You talk too much. You don't listen enough. You'll never catch up to those people. Look at their blogs. Look at their online platforms. Amazing. Look at you. You need to tip-toe back to bumpkin-ville where you came from and forget all this fal-de-ral. Frankly, girl, you embarrass yourself. You're an embarrassment. You hear me? You're not a techie. You'll never catch up. Quit while you are ahead!”

Now that I think of it, maybe that's why I ran so hard after I left the conference? I was trying to outrun the cat. Here's what I know. He's a patient one, that one. He is the tortoise to my hare. He knows he can plod along till I run out of steam and that in my weakest, most fatigued moments, the battle will be his. I'll give up without a fight.

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He works on me till I begin to talk for him. Who am I to tell you what to do with your fear, anxiety, depression, and crises of faith? I'm the one arm wrestling with the good God that I'm writing my way back too. Before I know it, that fraidy cat and I are giving me a good going over. My finger twitches over the 'kill switch' that would shut down my Confessions of a Fraidy Cat Facebook page. Shoulda never got on that plane to DC. What was I thinking?

What about you? Have you ever scared yourself to death thinking bigger thoughts, dreaming bigger dreams, and daring to hope for what seems to be the unreachable? Oh, I know you have, or you wouldn't have found your way to my friends and I. So, tonight, let's wage war together. Tonight I chose to banish the cat, and move forward, even if my knees are knocking in fear. What about you?

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Let's take the fear-of-failure cat captive together by remembering a few pivotal truths. I choose truth over fear tonight. I might need you to remind me of tonight's courageous choice in the morning. Love you long and strong. Come back soon? Till then, remember these weapons:

Ephesians 2: 10 (Amplified Bible)

For we are God's [own] handiwork (His workmanship), recreated in Christ Jesus, [born anew] that we may do those good works which God predestined (planned beforehand) for us [taking paths which He prepared ahead of time], that we should walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made ready for us to live].

2 Corinthians 12: 9 (Amplified Bible)

But He said to me, My grace (My favor and loving-kindness and mercy) is enough for you [sufficient against any danger and enables you to bear the trouble manfully]; for My strength and power are made perfect (fulfilled and completed) and show themselves most effective in [your] weakness. Therefore, I will all the more gladly glory in my weaknesses and infirmities, that the strength and power of Christ (the Messiah) may rest (yes, may [c]pitch a tent over and dwell) upon me!

Ephesians 3:20-21  (Amplified Bible)

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Now to Him Who, by (in consequence of) the [action of His] power that is at work within us, is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams]--To Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations forever and ever. Amen (so be it).

Kamikaze Parenting: Foundations

*Expect parenting to take time: actual time vs quality time.

Yes, quality time is a great thing. There are going to be moments, however, when life must stop revolving like a tilt-a-whirl. Your child needs your undivided attention. It is going to take a while. Stay till you know you are done however long it takes. Miss soccer, dance, or sleep. Be fully present. If you aren't, someone else is waiting to do so, and you won't like the result.

In this bullet point kinda world, magazine editors require 500 word articles with sidebars in case someone is too busy to read an article. They want 10 hints for this problem and 5 shortcuts to that solution because we can't catch up with the life we are living now much less slow down and absorb the world around us.

We barely stop to make eye contact as we throw backpacks in the car while rushing to the next commitment. While it is all worthy 'stuff', not one thing is as worthy as you knowing the midnight cry of your child's heart when all the barricades come down and the truth comes out. Take that to the bank.

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Owing to homeschooing, my sons have had the freedom to slip down at midnight to talk. For some reason, the teen brain seems most willing to share what has stayed bottled up inside at that late hour. Almost always, I was ready to scream, “LET ME SLEEP!!!” before they were through. In the end, I knew I had created an encouraging atmosphere that would entice them to come back again. They do even now that Son #1 is no longer a teen.

*Teach your children that they have value that is based on an eternal, unchanging, creator God who designed them with a unique purpose in mind.

No, I don't mean stroke them every possible way you can to foster their sense of self-worth. Self-worth for its own sake is a hollow concept that fails to deliver the hoped for result. You don't think so? We have a generation of kids who have been coddled, stroked, and reassured on self-worth. Where has it gotten us? It has gotten us a generation of entitled kids who don't know the value of life, work, morals, respect, or empathy.

1993

Perhaps the 2^nd defining moment of my parenting journey occurred when my little blonde tornado heard me sigh, looked up and said, “Oh, Mamma? Am I sick?” In that instant, I KNEW beyond a shadow of a doubt that the next thing I said could chart the course of his life for success or defeat.

So, when I took a deep breath and said, “No, honey. You are not sick. You are fearfully and wonderfully made,” I said it with the kind of assurance that a 7YO would never doubt. Even tho' I was unsure of the future, I knew God's word said we are fearfully and wonderfully made. My son could take that promise to the bank.

Over the years, I have driven that point home as often as needed. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You have a divine purpose that God put into place when he threw the stars in space. You have value because he created you with a purpose that only you can fulfill in this world. Only you. Those words instill confidence, vision, hope, and many other things that secular self-worth 'doctrine' fails to inspire.

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*Teach the lost art of honoring your word, keeping your promises, and respecting others.

We love a curriculum by Richard Maybury composed of a series of “Uncle Eric” books. One of the first ones we cover is Whatever Happened to Justice? In this slender volume, Maybury asserts that there are 2 fundamental laws upon which all major religions and philosophies agree (p. 35):

1. Do all you have agreed to do.
2. Do not encroach on other persons or their property.

Oh my! As I watched news footage of the aftermath of the Kentucky Wildcats' basketball victories this last week, it took about 2 seconds to realize that no one had taught that unruly crowd Rule #2. Nor had anyone told them much about the Golden Rule of the Bible: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” (Matthew 7: 12)

Do you see how principle #1 flows into principle #2 which flows into #3. Do you? A child whose parents pour real time effort into his/her life no doubt finds it easy to believe that he or she has a wonderful purpose in the world. If you believe you have a higher calling, you do not live to a lower common denominator of the out of control crowd that thinks anarchy is fun. You will honor your word, promises, and others.

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Well, my fraidy cat friend, we live in a fraidy cat world. If you know a parent, particularly a young parent who needs a place to call home, tell them to drop by? Bring them with you to sit a spell? I love you long and strong. All fraidy cats are welcome here!

Ephesians 2: 10 (Word English Bible)

For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared before that we would walk in them.