*Expect
parenting to take time: actual time vs quality time.
In this bullet point kinda world, magazine editors require 500 word articles with sidebars in case someone is too busy to read an article. They want 10 hints for this problem and 5 shortcuts to that solution because we can't catch up with the life we are living now much less slow down and absorb the world around us.
Owing
to homeschooing, my sons have had the freedom to slip down at
midnight to talk. For some reason, the teen brain seems most willing
to share what has stayed bottled up inside at that late hour. Almost
always, I was ready to scream, “LET ME SLEEP!!!” before they were
through. In the end, I knew I had created an encouraging atmosphere
that would entice them to come back again. They do even now that Son
#1 is no longer a teen.
Perhaps
the 2nd defining moment of my parenting journey occurred
when my little blonde tornado heard me sigh, looked up and said, “Oh,
Mamma? Am I sick?” In that instant, I KNEW beyond a shadow of a
doubt that the next thing I said could chart the course of his life
for success or defeat.
*Teach
the lost art of honoring your word, keeping your promises, and
respecting others.
Well,
my fraidy cat friend, we live in a fraidy cat world. If you know a
parent, particularly a young parent who needs a place to call home,
tell them to drop by? Bring them with you to sit a spell? I love you
long and strong. All fraidy cats are welcome here!
Yes,
quality time is a great thing. There are going to be moments,
however, when life must stop revolving like a tilt-a-whirl. Your
child needs your undivided attention. It is going to take a while.
Stay till you know you are done however long it takes. Miss soccer, dance, or sleep. Be fully present. If you
aren't, someone else is waiting to do so, and you won't like the
result.
In this bullet point kinda world, magazine editors require 500 word articles with sidebars in case someone is too busy to read an article. They want 10 hints for this problem and 5 shortcuts to that solution because we can't catch up with the life we are living now much less slow down and absorb the world around us.
We
barely stop to make eye contact as we throw backpacks in the car
while rushing to the next commitment. While it is all worthy 'stuff',
not one thing is as worthy as you knowing the midnight cry of your child's
heart when all the barricades
come down and the truth comes out. Take that to the bank.
Courtesy Mad Penguin Creative |
*Teach
your children that they have value that is based on an eternal,
unchanging, creator God who designed them with a unique purpose in
mind.
No,
I don't mean stroke them every possible way you can to foster their
sense of self-worth. Self-worth for its own sake is a hollow concept
that fails to deliver the hoped for result. You don't think so? We
have a generation of kids who have been coddled, stroked, and reassured
on self-worth. Where has it gotten us? It has gotten us a generation
of entitled kids who don't know the value of life, work, morals,
respect, or empathy.
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So,
when I took a deep breath and said, “No, honey. You are not sick.
You are fearfully and wonderfully made,” I said it with the kind of
assurance that a 7YO would never doubt. Even tho' I was unsure of the
future, I knew God's word said we are fearfully and wonderfully made.
My son could take that promise to the bank.
Over
the years, I have driven that point home as often as needed. You
are fearfully and wonderfully made. You have a divine purpose that
God put into place when he threw the stars in space. You have value
because he created you with a purpose that only you can fulfill in
this world. Only you. Those words instill confidence, vision, hope,
and many other things that secular self-worth 'doctrine' fails to
inspire.
Courtesy A. Squires |
We
love a curriculum by Richard Maybury composed of a series of “Uncle
Eric” books. One of the first ones we cover is Whatever Happened
to Justice? In this slender
volume, Maybury asserts that there are 2 fundamental laws upon which
all major religions and philosophies agree (p. 35):
- Do all you have agreed to do.
- Do not encroach on other persons or their property.
Oh
my! As I watched news footage of the aftermath of the Kentucky
Wildcats' basketball victories this last week, it took about 2
seconds to realize that no one had taught that unruly crowd Rule #2.
Nor had anyone told them much about the Golden Rule of the Bible: “Do
unto others as you would have them do unto you.” (Matthew 7: 12)
Do you see how principle #1 flows into principle #2
which flows into #3. Do you? A child whose parents pour real time
effort into his/her life no doubt finds it easy to believe that he or
she has a wonderful purpose in the world. If you believe you have a
higher calling, you do not live to a lower common denominator of the
out of control crowd that thinks anarchy is fun. You will honor your
word, promises, and others.
Courtesy B. Creasy |
Ephesians 2: 10 (Word English Bible)
For we are his
workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God
prepared before that we would walk in them.
Love it!!! Thank you for this encouragement!
ReplyDelete:-) Quite the contrary. Thank you for YOURS!
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